First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the carriage. While being in a relationship is a beautiful thing; no one talks about those moments of love when no one is watching. From popping your partner’s pimples to finding their hair in every crack and crevice, illustrator Amanda Oleander perfectly captured the intimate times people don’t share online. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship or is currently in one can relate to these situations. We promise you will be nudging your partner, saying, “Look! This is so us!”. Make sure you read all the way to the end where you’ll see what the real couple that inspired these drawings looks like!
1. SATURDAY PANCAKES
After a long week of work, the weekend is always comforting because it is a much-needed break. There is nothing better than sleeping in on Saturday and enjoying a homemade breakfast with your partner. It’s even better when you wake up, and they are already cooking.
Not only is the house filled with the smell of pancakes, but it feels like a home filled with love. No matter what happened during the week, these moments make all those things slip away, and you just enjoy the company of your loved one.
2. “LET ME JUST POP ONE”
“Oooh, you have a big pimple! Can I please pop it?” “Babe, you always make it so painful! “Just this one, I swear.” Those are the famous last words before his whole face is covered in red marks because you found some extra spots that you just had to pop.
You know you have been dating for a while when you can be open about your pimple popping obsession, and they allow you to get your fix with their acne. They no longer need a dermatologist because you take care of any spot and bumb they have. If that isn’t true love, we don’t know what is.
3. FEET LIKE ICE BLOCKS
If you have ever dated someone who has ice-cold feet, you will know the pain of getting into bed all warm and cozy, and suddenly they cuddle up to you, and it is like two ice packs on your legs. Every other part of their body is warm except for their feet, which feel like blocks of ice.
Whether it is you or your partner, whoever has the cold feet always uses the other person’s body to warm them up, and one person suffers until they are defrosted. No one wants to deny warmth to their partner because you love that person and want them to feel comfortable and loved.
4. NEW KIND OF DATE NIGHT
Date nights don’t always include fancy dinners and dressing up. Sometimes it’s simply sitting down for dinner together in comfy clothes and catching up on your favorite shows. Just having that time for the two of you makes it special and important for every relationship.
With everything going on in the world, more date nights look like this these days because restaurants are closed, and people have to stay home. As long as you are spending time with the person you love, that is the only necessary factor for the evening.
5. COUCH POTATOES
Have you ever just spent the day with your significant other binging a new show on Netflix? By the end of the day, you probably feel like two couch potatoes, but you made unforgettable memories together. No matter how long or short you have been dating; those small things strengthen a relationship.
Who cares if you spend the whole day watching TV, it was worth it to cuddle up to the person you love and just enjoy their company. There is no right or wrong way to spend time with your significant other, as long as it makes you both happy.
6. LENDING A HELPING HAND
Name something sexier than seeing your partner doing the dishes after you cooked dinner..we’ll wait. Having that healthy balance in a relationship is the best thing you can ask for because everything isn’t left for one person to do, and there isn’t an imbalance of power.
Even though it is just a few dishes, it means a lot because you didn’t have to ask, and they did it out of the kindness of their heart. It feels good when someone cares enough to take the extra steps to make you smile.
7. THE ONLY KIND OF GAMES THAT SHOULD BE PLAYED
When people talk about playing games in a relationship, this should be the only thing they are referring to. There is no place for mind games when you love and care about someone. All you need is some Nintendo 64 time and a glass of wine to satisfy you and your partner.
Sitting down for a game night with some of the things that bring you back to your childhood is another way to connect with your partner. Who says you can’t unleash your inner child every once in a while to have a Mario Kart showdown.
8. HAIR…HAIR EVERYWHERE
After brushing your hair, it seems like it is on every surface of the bathroom, and your partner finds strands of hair every time they go in there. One second you are untangling your hair, and then next, your boyfriend is covered in a hair coat that doesn’t belong to him.
No matter how long you have been dating, it is hard for him to get used to the amount of hair you shed in one brushing. He thought he was getting a girlfriend, but he actually got a shedding machine. You can make a matching hairstyle for him with all the hair from the floor.
9. “JUST ONE MORE GAME..IT WILL ONLY BE A FEW MORE MINUTES”
Get a boyfriend, they said, it will be fun they said. It is great until your boyfriend starts playing video games with his friends and you can’t get him to take a break. It gets to the point where you physically have to drag him to bed because “one more game” turns into three extra hours.
Sometimes you are in the mood, and they say it will only be a few minutes, but in the back of your mind, you know that’s not the case. Even when you try to entice them with a skimpy outfit, the video games hold onto their attention. That’s when it’s time to use the rolling chair to your advantage.
10. “YOU’RE HOT THEN YOU’RE COLD”
When you are freezing, but your boyfriend is sweating, so you agree to put on the air conditioning even though it already feels like Antarctica. You can try to curl up in a blanket, but it doesn’t really help. What is wrong with your boyfriend, and why is he sweating so much?
He is probably wondering how you are freezing in the middle of July. When you live with a partner, the biggest compromise you have to make is who is in charge of the thermostat. No one ever wins this battle unless you agree to keep it at a specific temperature.
11. YOU MAKE BRUSHING OUR TEETH FUN
When you are dating the right person, any activity can be made fun, even when you are just brushing your teeth. You can find little ways to make your days more exciting with someone who makes you laugh in any situation, especially when they have toothpaste all over their mouth.
If you enjoy even the most mundane activities with your partner, you know they are the perfect match. When you love someone, every day is a new adventure that you are excited to take.
12. THE BEST AIRPLANE BUDDY
We are all missing the feeling of getting on a plane and taking off for an adventure with our partners. The best thing about traveling with your significant other is that you always have someone to use as a headrest on the plane.
When you travel alone, you have to be aware to not fall asleep on the stranger next to you, but a significant other will gladly lend their shoulder. It is also exciting to travel with your boyfriend or girlfriend because you are creating special memories.
13. “PAY ATTENTION TO ME!”
When you finally get a chance to relax with your boyfriend, and all he wants to do is watch videos. At that moment, your regret showing him tall your favorite creators because he is officially addicted, and “one more video” turns into three more hours.
In relationships, you have to pick and choose your battles. Therefore, you might as well snuggle up and join him because there is no way he is getting out of the rabbit hole of that video app. At least he is just watching stupid videos instead of being sneaky.
14. WE GROW TOGETHER
Relationships are all about give and take. Sometimes, your partner might need more love, help, time, or something else, and you give more of yourself to help their needs. There will be other times when the roles are reversed, and you do the same for them.
It will be an equal balance most of the time, but there are situations when one person has to pick up the slack. It could be something small like doing the dishes or cooking dinner, but those things won’t go unnoticed when you need that help in return.
15. “NOW I’LL HAVE PROOF THAT HE SNORES”
When you fall asleep, make sure to hide all the camera phones so your significant other can’t sneak a funny picture of you or prove that you snore. It is hard to fall asleep and look good at the same time, but that doesn’t mean you should skip naps.
You might be snoring, drooling, or your face is smashed into a weird position. You can’t help that you look funny. Who knows where that picture will go. At the next family function, you might hear about the time you drooled all over during a nap because your partner sent a photo to the group chat.
16. WIFE AND PERSONAL HAIRDRESSER
While everyone has been stuck at home, and businesses are closed, people are taking on different roles at home, like becoming a hairdresser. If you cut your partner’s hair during quarantine, it is a big honor because they trust you with their precious locks.
It might be the first time you have used a clipper or a pair of haircutting scissors, but the good thing is that it’s just hair, and it will grow back. Even if you mess up their hair, they can’t blame you because they consented to this haircut.
17. A HAIRY SITUATION
When you have long hair and try to spoon with someone, it can be a bit tricky to figure out where to put all your hair. The big spoon always ends up with a face-full of hair. Even if you put it in a ponytail or bun, it is still in their face, and it is a never-ending battle.
Then they try to re-position, and your hair gets caught under their elbow. You cry out in pain because it feels like they are ripping your hair out. At some point, they just accept your hair covering their face. Unless they expect you to shave your head, this is their life now.
18. MAKING THE BIG MOVE
Deciding to move in together is a huge step in any relationship, but it is an exciting milestone. It is just a reminder that your relationship is moving in the right direction, and you love the person so much that you don’t want to spend a day without them.
Living with your partner is something everyone looks forward to because you never really know someone until you share a home with them. It is also fun because you can combine your design styles and make the house or apartment a home for both of you.
19. PRICKLY LEGS AND NOT A CARE IN THE WORLD
Whenever we shave our legs, there is a day or two (if we are lucky) that our legs feel smooth, and then the prickly stage starts happening. Anyone who touches our legs during that phase feels like they are rubbing their hand on a cactus.
It’s easier with a partner because they eventually get used to the cactus legs phase. The second day of the stubble is always the sharpest, so make sure to warn your partner before you start rubbing your legs against them.
20. LONG-DISTANCE LOVE
Long-distance relationships are complicated, no matter what anyone says. If you and your partner can survive long-distance, you can get through anything together because it is so challenging to be away from the person you love the most.
If you put in the time and effort to make an LDR work, it is so worth it. Although, nothing is more challenging than only being able to see your significant other through a screen when all you want to do is reach through and give them the tightest hug in the world.
21. SOMEONE NEEDS A PEDICURE
No matter how often you clip your toenails, they always feel like sharp claws on your partner’s legs. For some reason, it is comforting to rub your feet on their legs to make sure they are still next to you, but to them, it feels like a cat is trying to sharpen its claws.
Despite the scratches they endure, they never get mad or tell you to put on socks. Maybe for their sake, it would be smart to file those claws down, but you will never hear them complain because that is love. Even if they complain, it just means they feel comfortable enough to tell you when something is wrong.
22. “DON’T MIND IF I DO”
When you are caressing his back, and your finger finds a pimple. You smile at him as you start picking, and after a few seconds, he finally realizes what you are doing. At first, it is ok until he feels the smallest pinch and says, “Why do you have to do this with your nails.”
This situation usually goes one of two ways: He either will continue to let you pick at his blemishes, or he will pull away so you can’t reach his back anymore. While most hope that he will give in and surrender his acne, sometimes they just can’t handle the pain. That’s when it’s time to start bargaining.
23. POPPING THE QUESTION
Most people dream of the day someone gets down on one knee and asks them to spend the rest of their lives together. When someone loves you so much that they want to be with you forever, it is an overwhelmingly incredible feeling. It also shows how much they care by the way they propose.
Sometimes you don’t see it coming, or you had a feeling that it would happen soon, but nothing in life compares to that moment. It’s not about the ring or how big the proposal is; it’s just about you and them taking the next big step in your partnership.
24. “CAN YOU BELIEVE WHAT HAPPENED ON REAL HOUSEWIVES?”
When you finally convince him to watch your favorite reality show, and he gets hooked. You never thought your boyfriend would be so invested in the lives of middle-aged rich housewives, yet here you are, seeing the shock on his face when the drama starts to go down.
It’s always fun when you and your partner can share an interest in a show, even if it took a little begging for them to watch. The problem is that they are obsessed now and will be tempted to watch new episodes without you when you are busy.
25. SURPRISE HUGS ARE THE BEST HUGS
One of the best things about being in a relationship is the random hugs you get. Those surprise embraces are so comforting and special. Surprise hugs make everything more fun. From cooking to doing the laundry, when you have someone to make the experience more exciting, it doesn’t feel like a chore.
Those warm embraces are little reminders of how much you are loved. If you are having a bad day or just feeling down, a hug from your partner can make it feel like everything will be ok as long as they are by your side. Never underestimate the power of a hug from behind.
26. “I COULD SMELL YOU ALL DAY LONG”
Whether they are coming in for a sniff or sniffs before they leave the house or a random sniff in public, it shows that they can’t get enough of you. It might seem weird to say you smell your partner, but those scents are usually calming and make you feel safe.
There is nothing wrong with taking an extra whiff of their hair before you leave the house or when you feel anxious in public. It means you feel connected to that person. If someone doesn’t like how their partner smells, that is stranger.
27. A HUMAN BLANKET
On days when everything seems like it is going wrong, there is nothing like curling up with your loved one. Those close embraces fill you with warmth and make all the bad things wash away, even for a short moment.
No matter what the problem is, it leaves your mind once you are in your partner’s arms because that is where you feel safe. When you find someone who can make the world melt away, hold onto them because they are exceptional.
28. THREE SECONDS INTO THE MOVIE AND IT’S LIGHTS OUT
No matter what time of day it is, you can put on a movie, and within minutes, one of you is fast asleep. You begged to choose the film even though they didn’t want to watch another rom-com, but your partner finally gave in, and then it was lights out a few seconds later.
You don’t know why it happens, but you instantly fall asleep the second you hear the opening credits. If you are lucky, you make it through the first 15 minutes. Even though they are no stuck watching the movie you picked, they still love you and the silly things you do.
29. “I DON’T NEED TO FEEL MY ARM AS LONG AS YOU ARE COMFORTABLE”
Cuddling is all fun and games until you start to lose feeling in your arm. However, you never want to move because your partner looks so comfy and adorable. You might think, “It’s ok if I can’t feel my arm; I don’t want to disturb them.”
You think your arm has fallen off at some point because you can’t even move your fingers anymore, and then you realize that you have to get some feeling back. That is one of the only downsides to cuddling because it is otherwise so comforting.
30. PREGNANCY REVEAL
There are many different milestones in every relationship, and one of them is having children. The moment you see those two little lines or a plus sign on the pregnancy test, it is like an overwhelming feeling of excitement and nervousness. The more exciting part is telling your partner the news.
Whether it was a surprise or you had been trying for a while, that moment you share with your significant other is going to be one the both of you will remember forever. The fun part is that you no get to embark on a new and exciting journey together.
31. PANDEMIC DATES
The pandemic has been hard on every relationship because we are all couped up inside, and it is easy to run out of things to do. When you finally get the chance to go outside and have time together out of the house, it is like the beginning of your relationship again.
Enjoying nature and each other’s company is important when all we have done is sit inside for weeks on end. Although you have to get creative with your outdoor dates to keep them safe, it makes it more exciting to see what fun things you can come up with.
32. AT-HOME SPA NIGHTS
When you are pregnant, things start to get harder as you get further into your pregnancy. In the last few months, it’s difficult even to see your own feet! Simple things like getting off the couch, going to the bathroom, or falling asleep become tedious and challenging.
At some point, you have to ask your husband for help because everything is too much work for you. While doing your nails isn’t a necessity, it’s always nice when your partner is willing to help you in any way they can. That’s when you know it is real love.
33. “TELL ME WHEN THEY’RE GONE”
Finding the first grey hair can be heartbreaking for any woman because it makes us feel like we are getting old. Luckily, your partner will love you no matter what hair color you have, and he will be there to pluck or cut them, so you don’t have to see them for a while.
Finding grey hair is not the end of the world, but it can feel like that sometimes. However, with your partner by your side, you will be loved and supported through the entire traumatic experience, even if it seems silly to him.
34. EXHAUSTED BUT HAPPY
When you have a newborn at home, it can be kind of crazy. There are many feedings throughout the day, and the chores can pile up because you are both exhausted from waking up with the baby all night. The house might look like a disaster zone, but that is only normal for these changing times.
Finally, you get a chance to relax, and your husband kindly takes care of the crazy laundry that has piled up. That is when you know you picked a good one. Even though you are both on the brink of falling asleep, there are things to get done, and it’s nice to have a helping and supportive hand.
35. “WHO CHOSE THIS MOVIE?!”
When someone decides to put The Notebook, and you both ball your eyes out. There is nothing wrong with having a good cry to a sad love movie every now and then but be prepared for the waterworks to flow from you and your partner.
Even if it is a sad movie, at least you can curl up with your partner and hug them for comfort. It always helps to have someone to cuddle with them you feel sad. You can also comfort them when the tears start to flow.
36. OOPS, HOW DID THAT GET THERE?
When you cook for your loved one, and they find one of your hairs in their dish. “How did that get there?” You can play it off and say that your hair adds more flavor or that it is your secret ingredient, but they know by now that they will find hair no matter where they look.
The person who has to eat it feels like they have to be nice or hide the fact that hair is in the food. At some point in the relationship, they will learn to love your hair all over the house. Hair won’t hurt anyone; it’s just not the original flavor you were going for.
37. WRAP ME UP IN YOUR LOVE
When you get out of the shower and realize you forgot to bring a towel. “Babe, can you bring me a towel?” It might be something so simple, but it’s nice to have someone there who can help you when you need it, even if that is just bringing you a towel when you forget one.
It’s also nice when your significant other saves the day and brings a warm towel to warm you up. It is like being wrapped in love because even the smallest acts don’t go unnoticed. Some people might throw the towel at you, and others will physically wrap you in it; both ways are just as loving.
38. “MAKE A WISH”
When you find an eyelash on someone’s face, you have to put it on your finger for them to make a wish and blow it off. Don’t go doing this to strangers though, they will not be ok with you touching their faces, but it’s ok with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Sometimes you have nothing to wish for because everything seems perfect at that moment, and you don’t want anything to change. When you can’t think of anything better than being close to your partner, that is the best feeling in a relationship.
39. NORMALIZE BODY HAIR FOR WOMEN
At the beginning of a relationship, you shave every time before you see your boyfriend. It’s like trying to be as smooth as a dolphin when that is not humanly possible. At a certain point in the relationship, you stop caring and decide to let your hair grow.
Everyone needs to be reminded that women also have body hair, and it is only natural that it grows. Sometimes you forget to shave or don’t feel like it, and that’s ok. If a partner doesn’t accept that, then they need to learn that everyone has hair, not just boys.
40. BOUNDARIES? WHAT ARE THOSE?
When you have been with someone for more than a few years, there aren’t many boundaries. You get used to each other, and things that once felt embarrassing are normal between you and your significant other. That includes being in the bathroom at the same time no matter what you are doing.
It may seem weird, but you care less because it feels natural and comfortable. In relationships, everyone should be able to feel at ease when their partner is around. When you get out of the phase of hiding things, it helps you realize that breaking some boundaries brings you closer.
